A lot of neuro linguistic programming practitioners have learnt NLP so very technically. It’s not necessarily good or bad, and I think the most important part of being someone who practices NLP is that you walk your talk. Neuro linguistic programming has had a bad reputation in the past simply because people who used it did not really generate results with it.
In reality, neuro linguistic programming is not new. People who are masterful at what they do are practicing NLP without knowing it. Remember – NLP is not what exists alone. It is about modeling, and developing core skills for success.
Look at anyone who is masterful at what they do, and they are likely to have a set of beliefs that keep them masterful. If you look at their stratgies and model after them, you will be quite amazed to realize that there are many things they do in their head that keep them at the level of success that they deserve.
What exactly can you do to model mastery?
Here are three quick tips:
1. Learn how to perceive at different levels from different positions.
This entails looking at Robert Dilts’ neuro logical level process and also the different perceptual positions (first position, second position and third position). Being aware of how you go in and out of these levels helps us to clarify how to use it for modeling.
2. Learn how to use the Meta model and the principles behind the Milton Model to understand someone’s mental model of the world.
If you are not familiar with the Meta or Milton Model, there is a book called The Structure Of Magic and The Patterns Of The Hypnotic Techniques Of Milton Erickson, written by Richard Bandler and John Grinder. You can pick up some input there. Or, you can join us when we run our training programs. Use the language models to gain access to a persons mental model of the world.
3. Test, test, test!
Go out there and test to see what happens. You need this to get a more robust and flexible model of the world, with multiple routes toward success. The more routes you can create, the more likely you will be successful!
Once you’ve learnt this approach, keep refining it. I also would recommend you joining in for our modeling classes once they launch, and develop your capabilities in modeling and defining new effective models for your life.